Talk So They’ll Listen: Communication Tips for Parents and Kids

Ever feel like you’re talking to a wall when you’re trying to communicate with your kids? Whether it’s asking them to clean their room or discussing deeper topics like friendships and school, the art of communication in the family can sometimes feel elusive. But it doesn’t have to be! By understanding your child’s unique personality and communication style, you can bridge the gap and create meaningful conversations.

1. Speak Their Language

Kids don’t all communicate the same way, and that’s okay! A high-energy, outgoing child may need a lively, engaging conversation, while a quieter, more reserved child might prefer time to think before responding. The DISC personality assessment is a fantastic tool to identify these tendencies and adjust your approach.

2. Timing Is Everything

Sometimes, it’s not what you say but when you say it. Catching your child in the middle of a favorite activity or when they’re tired or hungry may lead to frustration instead of connection. Choose moments when they’re relaxed and more open to engaging with you.

3. Listen More Than You Speak

Kids need to feel heard. When they’re opening up, resist the urge to jump in with advice or solutions. Reflect back what they’re saying (“It sounds like you had a tough day at school”) to show you’re truly listening.

By adapting your communication to your child’s needs, you’ll not only strengthen your bond but also model the kind of thoughtful and respectful communication you want to see in them.